I am dating a guy who is a top. However, he ejaculates very quickly. I'm wondering is there anything that I can do to help him not ejaculate so quickly?
Answer:
Premature ejaculation or coming too soon is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions. There are a few treatments or tricks that your partner may be able to try out so that he can go stronger longer.
Wanna Talk About It?
Counseling or talk therapy can help either with your partner or with a therapist. During sessions you can talk about anxiety or stressors that may be affecting your performance.
Jerk it to Work It
Sometimes it is recommended to masturbate and ejaculate and hour or two before having sex. This could delay the ejaculation the next time you have sex and last a bit longer.
Squeeze It
The squeeze technique is a popular method for delaying ejaculation. You can practice this with masturbation or mutual masturbation.
Step 1. Begin sexual stimulation until you feel as if you are going to ejaculate.
Step 2. You or your partner should squeeze the end of the penis (the point where the head (glans) joins the shaft) Keep squeezing until you don't feel like you have to ejaculate anymore.
Step 3. After you stop squeezing wait for about 30 seconds then go back to sexual stimulation. You may notice that the penis starts to loose an erection but it will regain erection with stimulation.
Step 4. When you feel like you are about to ejaculate squeeze again and repeat as necessary.
Rub this on it
Climaz control creams or topical anesthetic creams containing lidocaine or prilocaine can dull the sensation and delay ejaculation. You apply it before intercourse and then wipe the cream off completely before sex. Be careful if these are oil based because they can cause a condom to break. Also if you plan on oral sex it can taste bad and numb the throat.
Wrap it up
Certain types of condoms that use climax control lubricants can be used to delay ejaculation. Trojan Extended Pleasure Condoms is just one example.
Remember sex is not just penetration. If you want more pleasure try extending foreplay and enjoy oral sex. You can always throw some sex toys into the mix too.
...ejaculating about an hour before a sexual romp seems to be a good solution to the quickness factor.
ReplyDeleteI used to date a guy with a premature ejaculation problem and I really wish I would've known about some of these techniques back then! I can say from experience, when the guy masturbated before having sex, it definitely helped. If only we would've known about the climax control cream! Thanks for the advice.
ReplyDeletethe squeeze thing works too just need some practice at it... thinking about baseball does not work......
ReplyDeleteDon't know why, but sex in the morning seems to have a natural way of lasting longer. Maybe it's b/c you are refreshed, I don't know. But sometimes I even have a difficult time having a quickie in the AM b/c I can finish fast.
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