Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Wet and Wild

When you think of water you think of fun and wet – pair that up with sex that is usually fin and wet and you have a winning combination right? Well not necessarily. If you are thinking about getting wet and wild in the water there are a few things that you should consider.

Be sexy but be safe
If you are having sex you always run the risk of getting an STI or getting pregnant so remember to use protection. The only problem here is that condoms and water don’t mix. There is a chance that the condom can slip off and when you combine chemicals and hot water it can affect the durability of the condom. So what’s a girl to do? Remember to use a form of hormonal contraception to prevent pregnancy and if you want to jump in the deep end I would recommend only doing it with someone that you are in a mutually monogamous relationship with that you know is STI free.
Wetter doesn’t always mean better. Water can wash away a woman’s natural lubricant so try using a water-soluble lubricant like silicone based ones to keep everything slipping and sliding.

Diving in
Okay so you’ve decided to have sex in the water what now? Let’s figure out the where. When having sex it’s best to stay close to home. Having sex in public pools and hot tubs are filled with much more chlorine and chemicals that your own pools would be filled with. The last thing that you want is highly chlorinated water rushing in and out of the vagina – hello infection! If you plan to get it on in public let me recommend oral sex. You can still use a condom because one of you has to be out of the water and it can be fun and safe. Thinking of a lake or an ocean? Well salt water and sand aren’t a vagina’s best friend. No matter how careful you think you are oceans and lakes are filled with organisms, dirt and sand that can get pushed into a vagina – hello infection! When it comes to sex on the beach I’d stick with the cocktail version. Tubs and the shower can be fun and there isn’t any chlorine or organisms to get you down. The only thing to keep in mind is that tubs and showers are slippery and sometimes tiny spaces – I would recommend some anti slip treads in the shower and doing some light stretching before.

As you can tell having sex in the water can be fun but you need to take some precautions. If you are ready to get wet and wild here are some new positions in the water to try out .

There are some myths that I would like to dispel about sex in the water.
Myth # 1
You can’t get pregnant if you have sex in the water
False. Truth is that once a man ejaculates into the vagina those sperm are on a mission to find an egg and fertilize. No amount of water is going to abort their mission. Water is not a method of contraception.

Myth # 2
Hot tubs and Jacuzzis are hot so they prevent pregnancy
Erroneous. Some people think that because of the high temperatures in the hot tub the heat will kill sperm. Truth is that even though hot temperatures can decrease a man’s sperm count he is still ejaculating several million of those little guys and it only takes one to fertilize an egg.

Myth # 3
You can get pregnant if a man ejaculates into a pool
Bogus. If a man ejaculates into a pool it is highly unlikely tat a women will get pregnant. True that sperm are strong swimmers but they aren’t part of any swim team that I know. Pools and Jacuzzis have chlorine, chemicals, bubbles and other chemicals so those spermies don’t stand a chance for more than a couple of seconds out on their own. If a woman is sitting on the edge of a pool I highly doubt that the sperm will be able to swim through the water and jump through the air – Free Willy Style – and land into the vagina. I know that sounds ridiculous but I’m just trying to make a point here.

Myth # 4
You can’t get an STI in the water
Untrue. Truth is that if you are having unprotected sex you are at risk for STI’s regardless if you are floating in a pool or not.

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Quality or Quantity?

Would you rather have better sex or lots of sex?

The best answer here would be lots of better sex but that's not the option I'm giving you. More isn’t always better. When you focus on quality instead of quantity you will spend more time on each other. When you spend more time trying to please one another your chances for orgasm greatly increase. Let’s be honest when sex is better you are more likely to have more of it and something that we can all be thankful for this holiday season.

Try out some new sex positions that will have you and your partner giving thanks well beyond Thanksgiving.

If you are feeling really saucy this Thanksgiving you can always try the Turkey Baster! For proper turkey basting have your partner lie on the bed and fold their legs up so they cover her face. Squat over your partner, facing away from them and penetrate in either her anus or her vagina. Move up and down baste that turkey! GOBBLE GOBBLE!!!!!

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Plan B, C, D, E and F?

Is it dangerous to take plan B more than once in a week?

Plan B (the morning after pill) is made up of a hefty dose of hormones so it depends on why you want to take it again. If you took Plan B within 120 hours of having unprotected sex then you followed the directions correctly and you have a good chance that you won't become pregnant. I would NOT take it again "just to make sure." However if for some reason you had unprotected sex again after you took the first dose of Plan B then you can take it again but it will cause some abdominal cramping, nausea, possible spotting, irregular period, you make skip a period all together until your system gets back on track and regulated.

Plan B is called Plan B for a reason ... there are a lot of Plan A's that you can use: don't have sex, condoms, birth control pills, diaphragm, IUD, sponge etc... Plan B is not and should not be taken as your only form of birth control. If you are concerned about becoming pregnant please see a doctor and discuss your birth control options, BE PROACTIVE!

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Unintentionally Sexually Explicit

This picture was sent in by a breakfast lover. Nothing says lazy Sunday like eggs and a heaping pile of sizzling, aromatic ...PENIS?!

Thursday, August 19, 2010

And the word of the day is......

What is snowballing? I heard people laughing about it and I was lost in the conversation.

Eskimo kisses aren't the only kind of kissing they are doing in Alaska! Snowballing is when a man ejaculates in your mouth and then you spit it back into their mouth when you kiss them. I have also heard of this used when a man ejaculates in your mouth and kiss someone else pass the cum and then they continue to pass it around to different people creating sort of a larger snowball since it is mixing with saliva as well.

Just a quick note that not all guys are necessarily interested in getting a taste of their own baby batter so don't spit without warning. If this is something that you guy is into, fabulous now you have a new trick in your tool belt.


Monday, August 16, 2010


What is outercourse?
Outercourse is simply NOT intercourse. It is non-penetrative sex. Sexual activity that does not include vaginal, anal and/or oral penetration. You may be asking yourself, Well what is left? If I'm not penetrating or being penetrated is it really sex? Well that definition is up to you.

What kinds?

Frottage: Also know as dry humping. This can be with or without clothes but watch out for chafing. Nothing say ouch like dry humping in a pair of jeans.

Mammary: Some like to call it "titty fucking." It is simply rubbing your penis between a pair of breasts.

Tribadism: Also known as "scissoring" it is when two women interlock their spread legs rub their vulvas against each other (like two pair of scissors).

Axillary: Some prefer to call it "bag piping" but it is thrusting a penis into the armpit like you are playing a bagpipe.

Manual stimulation: Masturbating your partner with your hands or fingers. Either rubbing or stroking a penis or vulva.

Are there risks?
Well of course there are still risks. Any type of sexual activity regardless of what it is that involves genitals touching genitals increases your risks of contracting a sexually transmitted infection. Remember that there is still a risk of pregnancy if genitals come into contact with semen.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Unintentionally Sexually Explicit

This picture was sent in by an unsuspecting baseball fan. Mid game they were feeling a little hungry but little did they know what type of soft pretzel they were going to get. Seems more like a hard pretzel than a soft pretzel to me.... ENJOY!

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Thursday, July 8, 2010

It's Trichy, Trichy, Trichy

The Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) of the Month is........Trichomoniasis

What is it?
Even Run DMC knows... It's Trichy, Trichy, Trichy. Trichomoniasis (Trich) is an STI that affects both men and women, but it is seen more in women. Trich is a caused by parasite and the most common site for women in the vagina and the urethra (pee hole) for men.

How do you get it?
Trich is transmitted through sexual contact, either by penis to vagina or vulva to vulva contact. Just in case anyone forgot the vulva is the woman's external genitals.

How do I know if I have it?
Most men don't have any signs or symptoms but some complain of a mild burning or irritation after peeing or ejaculating. For women it is a little more obvious. Some women will have a foamy, yellow-green discharge with a strong odor. Others complain of pain while urinating or genital irritation and itching. To be properly diagnosed with Trich you must see a healthcare provider.

This can be fixed with a pill right?
Yes it can, Trich can be treated with prescription drugs prescribed by a healthcare provider. The best way to avoid getting Trich is to always have protected sex and/or sex with a monogamous partner will decrease your risks.


Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Facial Etiquette?

I was hooking up with this girl and I would always cum on her face (facial). I did it to this new girl and she was horrified. What gives?

Rule #1 don't ever, ever, ever assume that just because one partner liked something another will like it as well. When it comes to cum there are usually three ways that people will react to splooge.

No way No how
Some people want nothing to do with jizz. It needs to stay far far away from any part of their body. If your partner is giving you oral sex and doesn't want ejaculate in their mouth then they probably don't want it anywhere else either. Some people find it very degrading and do not like it at all. If this is the case then respect their wishes.

Yeah okay but...
Others prefer it on their chest, stomach, back, butt. This is the below the neck option.

Bring it on
There are some that enjoy it and find it very erotic. So if this is your cup of tea or more appropriately your cup of cum then go for it and enjoy.

I honestly believe that people like the facial because that's what they do in porns and it makes you feel like a porn star. If it's something that you really like then go for it. Most importantly why not just ask? A simple "where would you like it?" can clear up a whole bunch of trouble and misunderstanding. Just a tip... try and keep it away from the eyes.

If you need some more info please refer to 1982's Come On Eileen by Dexy's Midnight Runners.

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Open Relationship?

My girlfriend wants to have an open relationship? We have been dating for awhile and I don't want to break up with her but she wants to be able to have sex with other people too. I don't know how I feel about it.

First of all let me ask you a few questions...
Do YOU want an open relationship?
Are you okay with her having sex with other people?
Are you okay with having sex with other people?
Are you a jealous person?

The reason why I ask you these questions is because in order to be able to have a successful open relationship both you are your partner need to be willing. Open relationships seldom work if you only one person wants it. Make sure you are honest with yourself and your partner. If you don't want an open relationship, don't agree to it. You will just be miserable and jealous. Make sure that you let your girlfriend how you feel about having an open relationship and your reason why you feel that way. If you are agreeing to an open relationship just because you don't want to break up, it isn't going to work, someone is going to get hurt and it is most likely going to be you. The best thing that I can tell you is to be honest and open and have a conversation about it. If it is something that you are interested in then make sure that you and your partner decide what type of open relationship you want. Is it just sex or is it dating other people as well? Make sure you are able to communicate what you are okay with and what you are not okay with.


Monday, June 28, 2010

Labia getting you down?

Labia getting you down? Do you feel as if they don't have that same youthful pinkish hue that they used to? Well have no fear My new pink button is here. It is a temporary dye/colorant to make your labia have have youthful glow that they used to. Don't worry just like foundation for your face you can pick from a myriad of colors to meet your vulvar needs.

I wish that I was kidding but this is indeed a product. Let me just advocate one more time that your labia (the inner and outer lips by your vagina) are not supposed to look like everyone else's. Vagina, vulvas, labia come in a variety of colors and shapes and sizes just like people and you should be able to feel good about your vulva. It is a beautiful area, grab a mirror and take a look sometime. Take a moment and get to know your vulva, say howdy to your vulva, a hello to your vagina and a wink and a nod to your labia. Vulvas come in every size, shape and color imaginable - don't let anyone tell you that you should dye it or change it!

Friday, June 25, 2010

And the word of the day is....

What is sporking? I heard this the other day and I have no idea what it is?

To understand sporking one must first understand what spooning is. Spooning is when you lie on your side and cuddle with someone also lying on their side. The person in the back is the big spoon and the person in the front that they are holding is the little spoon.

Sporking is spooning with a boner. Basically if you are spooning someone (a totally benign lovely activity) and suddenly the big spoon (the person doing the spooning) gets an erection then you are sporking. Think of it as a nice smooth spoon and suddenly there is a fork prong jabbing in your back.

Feel free to use it in a sentence...

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Are you a barsexual?

So a lot of attention has been given to barsexuals lately. What is barsexual you may ask? Well Urban Dictionary describes a barsexual as "A heterosexual girl or woman who partakes in any sort of sexual or promiscuous activity with another female to get attention from males. This usually takes the form of making out, and to a lesser extent, grinding or dry humping with another female."

I have to be devil's advocate here and just ask if everyone would be as cool with this if it was men kissing men to get women's attention?

Don't get me wrong I'm all about people expressing their sexuality however they want. If someone wants to makeout with 30 girls I don't care. There was a segment on the Today show about barsexuals (this made me giggle hearing Meredith Vierra say the term) and how it is detrimental to women. Ummm.... okay how is this detrimental again?

There is another term in Urban Dictionary that is used LUG... which is a lesbian until graduation. I say why does it have to stop at graduation? why can you only makeout in places that charge a cover? If it the thrill of having people watch you (exhibitionist) then okay I get it but if you feel that it is the only time that it is acceptable then maybe you should explore leaving the bar.

Let me share a little story with you. There were some friends would go and make out at bars all the time which was acceptable. One night they went home and continued the makeout session... this was unacceptable with the friends because now they were "hooking up." This somehow crossed some sort of line. Why can't they go home and makeout and continue the fun? I think people are so worried about having labels placed on them that they are afraid to explore their own sexuality.

So what is the take away message... Go makeout with whoever you want and don't worry about what others think or what that makes you. Sing it with me....

Friday, June 18, 2010

Testing, Testing, 1, 2, 3...

June 19 - June 27 is Get Yourself Tested Week! Make sure to get yourself tested to protect yourself and your partner(s). Testing is easy and quick and most Sexually Transmitted Infections (STI's) can be tested by just taking a urine sample so get to it! Get yourself tested!!!! To find a testing facility near you it's easy just click here

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

All the single ladies...

I am a single lady and lately I have had some "needs" that I wanted to be met. I met a guy and as two consensual adults, we have decided to have SAFE sex with no strings attached. I have shared this "news" with my married friends and they have told me I am a total slut. I am not sure why they are being so judgemental, as they are so out of touch with the "single life" and they don't even try to understand the needs of a single woman. Any advice????

First of all I would like to commend you for practicing safe sex. My question to you is what do you constitute as safe sex? Are you using a condom and dental dams for oral sex? If not then you are opening yourself up to sexually transmitted infections (STI's). Just remember that even though a person seems nice and seems "clean," people can be asymptomatic which means that they can have no signs of an STI and can pass along an STI without even knowing that they have it.

Now that I'm done with the safe sex part let's address your friends... who cares what they think? It is really easy for people to pass judgement on others. How long have they been married? Are they happy? Perhaps they wish they could get in on the single life again. Sex is fun and exciting! If they are going to judge you then don't tell them about it, share the news with friends that you know wouldn't judge you.

Just a word of caution to the no strings attached lovin'... as friends with benefits or bed buddies just be careful that this is benefiting both parties and not just you. It is hard for some people to separate emotional feelings from sex. It really depends on your attitude towards sex. If sex is something that always means love and commitment to you, it's probably not going to work for you to engage in no string attached sex. If sex is a casual thing to you, then I think it's possible that you can get together and not get emotionally involved.

Make sure that you talk openly about your expectations and concerns. If you can't do this then you probably aren't comfortable to get naked with them. Don't assume that someone feels the same way that you do, make sure you say it out loud. Also, be aware that feelings change, and check things out periodically with yourself and your partner.

It's not all doom and gloom if you feel that you can handle it and you are practicing safe sex then go for, go buck wild, HAVE FUN!

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

It's Super Penis - Multiple Male Orgasms

I heard that men can have multiple orgasms like women is this true?

It's a bird, it's a plane, it's super penis! Multiple male orgasms are possible but it may not be what you think.

How does it work
In men, orgasm and ejaculation are not mutually exclusive. Orgasm and ejaculation can be separate reactions. Orgasm does not always occur with ejaculation; it is possible to orgasm without ejaculating, also known as “dry orgasm” before having a final money shot ejaculatory orgasm.

Male and female orgasm experiences are physiologically similar and male orgasms are not determined by ejaculation. Masters and Johnson describe the sexual response in four stages: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution, which are true for both men and women. In comparison to the female orgasm, the male tends to follow a standard path of orgasm/ejaculation while women can have an “orgasm experience” having several orgasms.

Why haven't I heard of this miracle
Few studies have looked at the experience of the male orgasm because there is an all-inclusive view of the male orgasm. Sometimes orgasm and ejaculation are accepted as a single, non-differentiated event because they happen in a rapid succession.

Don't be mistaken
Men can mistakenly believe that being able to regain an erection soon after ejaculation and reach another orgasm within a short period of time or a short refractory period would qualify as being multi-orgasmic. This is not the case, a true multi-orgasmic male will not loose his erection between orgasms. Multi-orgasmic can also be confused with a linger plateau phase.

How can I get me some of that?
The ability to separate orgasm and ejaculation involves the pubococcygeal muscle (PC muscle). (This is the same muscle that women use for Kegel exercises). During the orgasm phase there are several contractions that signal the beginning of ejaculation. As these contractions occur stopping stimulation and squeezing the PC muscle should inhibit ejaculation and the refractory period thereby allowing multiple orgasms without ejaculation. You can practice using your PC muscle by stopping and starting the flow of urine while you are peeing.

If men are seeing ejaculation as the goal then they are missing out on the potential of multiple orgasms. Multiple male orgasms can be beneficial for themselves as well as their partners. As always enjoy and have fun again and again...

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Taking a vacation

Hello Boom Boom enthusiasts...

Just wanted to let you know that I will be taking a break and going overseas. I will return in June and will get back to work. Many new posts will come every Tues/Thurs so don't fret.

Please keep your questions coming, email

While I am away I wish you sexy times and as always.. enjoy!

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

She's got legs.....

My girlfriend has really long legs and some positions are hard for her to get into.. any ideas?

A lot of people can find it awkward finding positions that work for them especially when there is a difference in stature. Sex is all about trial and error so you are going to need a sense of humor to try something and if it doesn't work out try something else. Here are a few positions that won't matter if she has really long legs.

Lay side by side like you are spooning your partner and enter her from behind.

Guy on top
Clearly this will work because her legs won't be a factor but try and utilize those lengthy legs pull them up next to your ears or have her wrap them around you.

Doggy style
Now you may think to your self, this won't work, but the more she spreads her knees away from her body the lower she will be.

If you really want to have her on top you are going to have to make up the difference in height somehow. Try putting a pillow under your back that way you can lift yourself up to where she is. Now granted I don't know how long your lady's legs are but I am assuming that you aren't going to need a forklift to make it up to her so If one pillow doesn't work try another.

Remember as ZZ top once wisely said "She's got legs, she knows how to use them." So she has the legs, she just needs to figure out how to use them. As always... ENJOY!

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Saddle up cowgirl

I love to be on top but my hips hurt really bad after awhile.

First of all Yeeeeehaw! okay there it is out of my system.

Why does it hurt?
Well, cowgirl how long is your riding session? If you do one thing for awhile (anything) you can overuse your muscles. I am assuming that it is a aching pain and not sharp stabbing pain because if that is the case then you may want to see a health care professional to make sure that you don't have a serious problem. Your hip muscles that may be hurting are your abductor muscles - the muscles that move your leg away from your body. You may see people at the gym on the adductor and abductor machine - they are usually seated and spreading and closing their legs (i call them the yes/no machines.

What can I do?
It is easy to say that stretching out before can help but I really don't see may people pausing sex to engage in a rigorous pre coitus stretching regimen. You can try switching positions - I mean how long are you up there on that horse? Try starting out on top switching to another position that does not stress your hips like doggy style, or lying side by side like you are spooning. If your partner is on top try not to go spread eagle and keep your legs closer together to relive some stress on the hips.. bonus here is that the closer your legs are the tighter it will feel for both you and your partner :)

This is actually a pretty common sexjury (sex injury). May I recommend yoga, not only will it help with your flexibility but it is a great stress reliever and quite frankly you can pick up some pretty awesome ideas for new sex positions... downward facing dog.... AWESOME! Try it out and maybe next time you can sun salutation yourself into an orgasm. As always... ENJOY!

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

One Girl One Cup

I was at Whole Foods and I saw a Moon Cup... How does it work? Do people really use them?

Ahhh yes the moon cup or if you are feeling saucy the diva cup is an option. If you are tired of using tampons and/or pads the menstrual cup is for you.

What is it?
It's been around since the 30's and is recently gaining popularity again since everyone is trying to be "green." The menstrual cup is made of latex/rubber and is reusable. It is inserted into the vagina and is reusable for up to ten years (though most recommend to replace after a year). SO basically it is a rubber flexible cup that you insert into the vagina to collect menstrual secretions. Here's where it can get messy.... since you don't dispose of it like a tampon you need to dump out the blood, wipe clean and reinsert. When you are done with your cycle clean with hot soapy water and store away.

Why would anyone do that?
Women that use them rave about them. It is inexpensive and reusable. This is not for the woman who is uncomfortable with her own body. You need to be able to reach inside and pull it out and insert it so be friendly with your vagina. They come in two sizes and the smaller sizes are recommended for women who are 25 or younger and have no had a child. Menstrual cups cost around $25-$30 and that is a one time cost. Think about every time you buys pads, tampons, panty liners... that adds up.

So ladies go green and give the cup a try! or not whatever you like best :)

Wednesday, April 28, 2010


Is it true that you can have an orgasm doing sit ups?

This post was prompted after reading an article in Women's Health Magazine. Have you ever been at the gym minding your own business doing sit ups and the next thing you know you've cum? Well for some women this happens. Maybe this is why that lady was smiling at the gym.

No way... How?
Remember when we talked about Kegels? The exercise induced pleasure may be due to the tightening of the same pelvic muscles. Kegels are exercises for the pelvic floor muscles(PFMs). These are the muscles that rhythmically contract during orgasm. Think about it if you are doing several reps and rhythmically contracting the same muscles then it is quite possible that you may indeed have an orgasm mid Pilates class.

Try these out
- Lying on your back lift both legs up together 6 inches off the floor and hold for a few seconds, repeat.
- Hang from a pull up bar and bend your knees up to your chest, repeat.
- Take a Pilates class at the gym you never know what will happen.

If you suddenly have the urge to work out and have some coregasms you aren't the only one. Unfortunately there is no gaurantee that this will work for everyone, but if it does... more power to you and let me be the first to congratulate you on your future six pack abs!


Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Unintentional Sexually Explicit Video of the Month

Introducing the Shake Weight. You can have perfectly sculpted arms in just six minutes a day! They are marketing this item for $19.95 - $29.95. I'm pretty sure I have a way that you can do the same motion for FREE! A friend of mine said that he has been doing this exercise since he was ten! Mutually masturbate your way to better arms. This is the fastest, easiest, most effective way to battle those jiggly bits... so ladies and gentlemen get to it! Have fun and ENJOY!

For the ladies....

Gentlemen you have not been left out don't worry....

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

To shave or not to shave....

Should I trim it up down there?

The fine art of trimming or shaving pubic hair is gaining in popularity for women and men. Women are looking for the bald eagle and some men seem to think that if you trim the bushes, it makes the tree look bigger. While deciding whether or not to shave one’s nether region is seemingly simple (‘yes’ or ‘no’), the actual task is slightly more difficult – with potentially irritating and (in some cases) painful consequences.... think Lorena Bobbit. With shaving there is always the potential risk of cutting the skin. It is also possible that the area may become uncomfortable and itchy (from “razor burn” and/or ingrown hairs). Remember that this is a delicate area and it may take a while for your body to get accustomed to irritations associated with shaving.

For those who ultimately decide in favor of shaving, there are a couple of options available. If you desire a simple trim, then you can get it with just a pair scissors or an electric shaver. If however, you want the area completely bare (bald eagle), then shaving or waxing (Brazilian) will be your best option.

Follow these steps for the best method for removing pubic hair in an effective, safe and easy way.

Trim: Use either scissors or a trimmer to cut down your pubic hair as short as possible. The shorter the hair the easier the shave will be. Shaving long hair will dull and clog the razor.

Shower: Take a nice hot bath or shower. Soaking in the warm water will soften up both your skin and hair. You can also gently exfoliate the area with a loofah.

Lather: Apply shaving cream/lotion/gel generously to the area to be shaved.
(Note: There are special shaving creams/lotions/ gels for your pubic area, such as Sensa-Shave or Bikini Zone. Try not to use heavy scented or perfumed gels. This will irritate the skin.)

Shave: With one hand pull the skin tight; with the other hand slowly shave in the direction of the hair growth. Pubic hair is coarse and will dull the blade after one shave. Make sure to use a new blade every time. Make sure to clean the blade after each stroke. If you need to go back over an area remember to first lather the area again.

Post-Shave: Once you have all the areas shaved, rinse with cool water. Pat the area dry with a clean towel. Apply an unscented moisturizer or aloe to the area to help sooth the freshly shaved skin and to avoid “razor bumps.” There are different types of creams or after shave for these particular areas such as coochy cream from Pure Romance, Passion Parties offers a unisex shave and after shave kit and even Gilette has a kit available.

Potential Problems: Keep an eye out for signs of infection post shaving. Prolonged localized redness, swelling, bumps or sores that appear infected are indications that you should follow up with a healthcare professional.

Monday, April 19, 2010

Dental Dam Show and Tell

Recently I have had a lot of people ask me... What is a dental dam? Where can you get them? Hopefully this will answer some of your burning questions.

What is a dental dam?
A dental dam is a thin piece of latex that you place over a vulva (woman's external genitalia) or an anus to protect against Sexually transmitted infections when performing oral sex. STI's that you can get from oral sex are herpes, gonorrhea, hepatitis B, syphilis and HIV.

Where do I get one?
Dental dams can be difficult to find but they are available at drug stores and sex shops. You can also order them online. Glyde dental dams are one brand and so is Lixx. If you are looking for a non latex option, Hot Dam is for you. I would suggest going with either plain or flavored. You can also make a dental dam out of a condom or by using non-microwavable plastic wrap (do not use microwavable because there are small holes in it so that heat can escape in the microwave). If you are making a dental dam out of a condom use a plain or flavored kind (lube does not taste good). I have made a handy dandy video for you to watch if you are feel crafty.


And now for your viewing enjoyment....How to make a dental dam out of a condom!

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Is it low tide?

How Can I Make It Smell Better Down There ? I Have Never Heard Anyone Say It Smells But I Don't Wanna Take Any Chances.

The smell and taste of the nether regions varies from woman to woman. It is sometimes described as a musty or musky but a vagina quite frankly smells like a vagina. Clearly it isn't supposed to smell like flowers or strawberries.

Let's start with the obvious.... Are you showering or bathing regularly? If the answer is no then stop reading we've located the problem.

Some infections in the vaginal area, such as bacterial vaginosis can give your down under a fishy smell. If you find yourself asking "Is it low tide?" and you haven't recently been fishing, then I would suggest following up with a heath care provider.

Sweat and Urine oh my...
If you suffer from swamp ass or in this case swamp vulva it may be the culprit. Think about how your pits smell after sweating. If you notice that you are sweating you can rinse off or try using a baby wipe. (there are specific feminine hygiene wipes as well).

If your urine usually has a strong odor it may be causing a little funk down there as well. Remember the urethra lives pretty close to the vagina. Have you ever lived in an apartment building when your neighbors cook really smelly foods?? Well sometimes your urethra can be the smelly neighbor.

No matter how bad you think that you smell do not douche. Douching is very bad for the vagina; it can lead to infections because it kills off the good bacteria. The vagina is a delicate eco system, you don't want to kill everything.

Everyone has a unique scent if you are really concerned or you start to notice a really strong odor, I would suggest seeing a health care provider about it.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Fabulously Curious

I'm a gay man who has found myself becoming increasingly curious about a girl over the past six months. My girl friend and I flirt. We regularly discuss making out and find erotic ways to be close to making out but don't actually make out. In general, I don't find girls attractive and have never been with a woman. However, I am intrigued and she is intrigued with me. I'm confused as to what to do? Do I experiment? Or do I need to walk away and find a guy to keep me company?

Katy Perry, the lyrical genius that she is, may be able to help you out with this...
It’s not what, I’m used to
Just wanna try you on
I’m curious for you
Caught my attention
I kissed a girl and I liked it

Don't pigeon hole yourself
Just because you identify as a gay man doesn't mean you are bound to the laws of gaydom. Who says that you aren't able to experiment and kiss whoever you want. What's the worst thing that would happen if you kissed a girl? Would the gay police come and take away your gay license?

Friends with benefits?
This is a sticky situation since you are friends with this girl. If you guys did kiss would it be weird? Would it ruin the friendship? Is this something that you and/or she wants just because it would normally feel off limits for you and you are feeling risky? I know that I am asking you a lot of questions but you need to consider some things. If you and she don't care and you want to give it a whirl then yeah go for it, why not? if you want to kiss your friend, kiss your friend - Just make sure you do what YOU want to do.

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Sperm Genocide

What exactly is spermicide? and how it is it used?

Spermicide is a birth control method that inhibits sperm mobility. Think of it like running on a treadmill vs. running in sand. Have you ever tried running in sand? It is a lot harder to move in the sand. Just like it is a lot harder for sperm to move around. This will keep the sperm from meeting the egg and therefore preventing pregnancy.

Spermicide offerers NO protection against STIs or HIV. According to planned parenthood, if women always use spermicide as directed, 15 out of 100 will become pregnant each year. If women don't always use spermicide as directed, 29 out of 100 will become pregnant each year. What does that mean? Well, it is more effective than using nothing at all but there are other forms of birth control that are more effective.

Ohhhh options:
Spermicides come in a bunch of different varieties: cream, foam, gel and suppositories (little capsules you insert into the vagina). You can use spermicide by itself but it is usually used with another form of birth control such as cervical caps or diaphragms. Spermicides are relatively safe but the chemicals can cause irritation to the vagina and/or penis. If irritation occurs you can try switching up brands... if irritation still occurs spermicide may not be the birth control method for you.

How do I use it?
Each type of spermicide is used a little bit different. Make sure you take the time to read the instructions for the product that you are choosing. If you don't use the product as directed it will be less effective. In general, most spermicides are inserted with a finger or an applicator, like a tampon. For most types of spermicide you need to wait ten minutes to have sex after you insert the foam, cream etc... Most methods will only last for an hour after you insert them, so if you are feeling frisky and looking for a few more rounds, you will need to reinsert.

Good Vibrations... Sweet Sensations

If I use a vibrator too much, can it desensitize me? I'm worried it will ruin sensations.

If Marky Mark and the Funky Bunch taught us anything it's that good vibrations bring about good sensations. Sex toys can be dated back to 500 BC and for good reason... because that are freaking awesome!

Vibrator Habituation
You will not loose sensations if you use a vibrator; it is a myth. You can however experience vibrator habituation - you become used to the sensations and that particular type of stimulation. There is no need to break up with your vibrator but perhaps you should see other people. All you need to do is switch it up a bit. Try using a different toy or manual stimulation (fingers) instead of something battery operated.

**Remember that partner sex orgasms and vibrator orgasms are two are separate things. If you are unable to orgasm with the partner don't worry most women can't orgasm with just penetrative sex, clitoral stimulation is usually needed.

ENJOY and get creative!

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Bleeding during sex

When I have sex I bleed a little bit. Lately when I am having sex when we are done there is blood on the condom. Is there something wrong with me?

Let's not jump to conclusions. There are many reasons why you might be bleeding during or after sex and not all require medical attention.

Vaginal Tears
Your body as part of the sexual response cycle creates it's own lubricants. During arousal the vaginal walls secrete fluids to lubricate the vagina decrease friction during penetration. Some women create enough lubricant and some women don't. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. If you think that you are a little dry, try using lube. The bleeding may be caused by vaginal tears (micro tears) to the vaginal walls or the vulva. Remember: If it hurts...STOP! Sex isn't supposed to be painful (unless you like pain). These tears usually will heal in about 3 days as long as you avoid any further irritation such as penetration by penis, finger, and/or toys. Avoid using tampons if it is that time of the month.

Some STI's can have symptoms of bleeding, Chlamydia in particular. If there is any chance that you may have an STI, consult with a heath care provider for testing and possible treatment. Remember you don't have to have penis/vagina sex to contract an STI.

Polyps or Fibroids
Polyps and fibroids can grow in and around the uterus and/or cervix. They are little growths sometimes resembling a fig. You can't tell if you have polyps or fibroids yourself, you need to see a health care provider to diagnose you.

You may be experiencing one, all or none of these but if you are experiencing pain as well as bleeding always consult your doctor/gynecologist to get checked out. There are a number of other reasons that you may be experiencing vaginal bleeding as well so it is best to consult a healthcare provider.

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Unintentional Sexually Explicit Picture of the Month

Today's forecast is "cloudy with a chance of penis."
This is a storm front that I could definitely get behind, or in front of for that matter :)

Monday, March 22, 2010

I like sex and candy

I like food and I like sex.. can I have both at once?

Ahh yes the age old question, How many pleasurable things can I do at once? You can incorporate food into the bedroom and it can be fun but don't get carried away. There are some rules that you should consider while making your coital culinary choices.

Feeling hot hot hot
As a rule... if your mouth burns when you eat it, your nether regions are sure to feel the same. Proceed with caution when using any foods that have cinnamon, menthol, mint, pepper, hot sauces etc.. A little tingle is nice but sometimes the concentration of these spicy foods can be way more than you want.

Size does matter
Remember when using any types of foods that you don't want to loose anything in a vagina or an anus. Take into consideration shape, size and texture when choosing foods. Try rubbing the foods on the inside of your wrist and see how it feels. Think cucumber instead of pineapple.

Just say no!
Any type of product that has sugar or oil in it is a no no for the down low. Oil breaks down latex and can deteriorate a condom and is really hard to wash off the skin. Sugary products thrive in warm, moist areas and encourages growth of yeast and bacteria. If you want to use syrup, chocolate, honey or oils use them above the belt!

Make sure that you and your partner wash up after using any types of foods to prevent infections. If you are inserting anything into the vagina or anus you may want to cover it with condom. As always, be creative and have fun. The kitchen may become your new favorite place to be!

Friday, March 19, 2010

Going Green and Getting Sexy

Earth Day is right around the corner... How many times have you found yourself wondering "Gee I really wish my dildos were more earth friendly" or "Yeah this whip is awesome but has it been made from recycled rubber" Well no need to wonder anymore, there are a number of environmentally friendly sex toys.

Where can I find them?
Earth Erotics
Earth Angel
Good Vibrations
Cosmo's Vegan Shop

What is earth friendly?
- Solar powered vibrator
- Whip made from recycled rubber
- Battery free vibrators
- Organic natural lubrications
- Vegan condoms
- Rechargeable vibrators
- Recycled glass dildos

If none of these ideas tickle your fancy or you are attached to your vibrator, you can always buy rechargeable batteries.

As always have fun and experiment with ways to go green in bed. If all else fails just go have sex in the woods :)

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Sprained Sausage?

I think that I either sprained or broke my penis... is that even possible?

It depends what you were doing. Some men can sprain or strain their penis by masturbating a little too vigorously. One reason that I have heard the most is when the man is penetrating a penis or anus and when thy are thrusting they slip out and jam their penis into the pubic bone or the buttocks. Think of it like stubbing your toe....but it's your penis. A stubbed penis? No that just doesn't sound right.

I think I need a cast.
It is unlikely however, yes it is possible to 'break your penis'. Well there is a bit more to it than that but you can indeed strain and even rupture your corpus cavernosum. The corpus cavernosum is the chamber in the penis that fills with blood to give you a boner. Since there is no actual bone in the boner you cannot break your penis, but this rupture is what would be considered a 'broken penis.' Some people experience a popping sound when this happens like cracking your knuckles or if you ever tore your ACL...that type of popping. This is actually a serious medical emergency and if you believe that you have broken your penis it is recommended that you take a trip to the emergency room. They will check you out and probably take an MRI or an ultrasound. You will probably see a urologist and might possibly need surgery to correct the rupture.

I don't think it's broken can I just sling it?
If you don't think that its broken then you should probably take it easy for awhile killer. If pain persists, if there is swelling or if you are having trouble urinating I would recommend making an appointment with either your primary care physician or an urologist.

No matter how embarrassing you may think it will be to tell the nurse or doctor that you think that you broke your boner, maimed your member, sprained your sausage, or destroyed your dick.... you need to see a health care professional to make sure you have not caused any serious damage to your ding-a-ling.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Burning Man

My penis hurts like a mofo when I pee, what is going on?

Welcome to the wonderful world of Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). The most common STIs that have symptoms of buring with urination are Chlamydia and Gonorrhea.

Any other symptoms?
There are other symptoms that are associated with these STIs as well like a yellowish/whiteish discharge from your penis, pain, swelling or tenderness in the testicles.

Hard to spell easy to get:
Chlamydia can be transmitted through vaginal, anal, and oral sex. Gonorrhea can be transmitted through contact with the penis, vagina, mouth, or anus (ejaculation does not have to occur). Both Gonorrhea and Chlamydia are curable with antibiotics if you go to a health care provider to get it checked out.

No way it is an STI:
If you don't believe that there is any way that you could have gotten an STI, this could also be an urinary tract infection (UTI). UTIs also have symptoms of painful urination as well as frequent urination. UTIs are much more common in women but men can get them and can be treated with antibiotics.

The take away message here is if you are having pain with urination then you need to go see a health care provider. If you are sexually active (yes that includes oral sex) I would recommend getting regularly tested for STIs not only to protect yourself but to protect your partner(s). If you are hooking up please use a condom!

Friday, March 5, 2010

Unintentional Sexually Explicit Video of the Month

Why is it that people making the jerking off motion is just so funny? This is the Today Show in Australia and they are demonstrating how to play Wii curling... Check it out for yourselves.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Ben Whaaaaat?

What are Ben Wa Balls?

Ben Wa balls are used to enhance sexual pleasure and to do kegel exercises (pelvic floor muscles).

That's great, but what are they?
Ben Wa balls also can be known as Geisha Balls or Burmese Balls. They are usually metal balls about the size of a golf ball that contain tiny weights or chimes that move around inside. They are also sometimes plastic. Remember the relaxation balls that you would move around in your hands? ...yeah just like them. Except instead of putting them in your hands, you put them in your vagina and/or anus.

Think of it like weight lifting for your vagina. It is the same as the kegel exercises; you squeeze your pelvic floor muscles around the balls and try to keep them in without falling out. There exercises are recommended to increase your pelvic floor muscles and to help with bladder control.

Sexy Stimulation
There are many ways to use the Ben Wa balls but whichever way you use them and whatever hole you put them in good sensations are sure to occur. Some like to insert them and rock back and forth allowing the balls to move back and forth, some just like the feeling of them inside, since they are metal you can also play with the temperature of the balls put them in some cold water or warm water (NOT THE FREEZER OR BOILING WATER). Be creative try walking around the house, riding in the car on your way home.

Be creative try new techniques or try them out in new places. As always have fun or in this case have a ball.

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

"She's baking a loaf of bread and I think it's sourdough"

How do I know if I have a yeast infection?


What is a yeast infection?
Yeast Infection (Candidiasis) is a fungus that likes to grow in moist warm areas (i.e. your vagina).

What's going on down there?
Let's think of the vagina as a delicate eco system. It is best when it has a certain pH. Yeasts are found in the vagina normally but can overgrow if the eco system in the vagina changes. Kind of like when your lawn grows crazy after a good rain.

One of the most common symptoms is a thick vaginal discharge that resembles cottage cheese. Usually there is itching and irritation in and around the vagina. Some women report that they may have pain with sex or it burns when they pee.

There are many over the counter treatments such as gels, creams, inserts etc... Which may help with the itching and burning but if the vaginal discharge lasts for more than 1 week, CALL YOUR DOCTOR!

How can I keep it from coming back?
The best way to avoid getting a yeast infection or agitating one that you already heave is to avoid scented body washes, bubble baths or douching. Actually let me take the time to say now DON'T DOUCHE! Avoid hot baths or hot tubs. During your period make sure that you are changing your pads and/or tampons regularly.

Monday, February 22, 2010


Can I exercise my vagina?

You sure can! Have you ever heard of a Kegel exercises?

What is a Kegel?
Kegels are exercises for the pelvic floor muscles(PFMs). These muscles help support the uterus, bladder and bowels. These are also the muscles that rhythmically contract during orgasm.

How can I find mine?
The best way to locate your pelvic floor muscles is while you are urinating try and stop the flow of urine... those are your PFMs. Another way to locate them is to insert a finger into the vagina and to try and squeeze your vaginal walls around your finger the same way that you sopped the flow of urine.

Let's vagercise!
I'm sure that you have many questions, like How many reps should I do? or Do I need to get a sweat band for my vagina? The best way to go about vagercising is to build up. Try holding the contraction for 3 seconds, then rest for 3 seconds, repeat this 10 times. Next time try 4 seconds and try building up to holding the contraction for 10 seconds with 10 second rest intervals 10 times.

Benefits of Kegels?
Kegels have many benefits but I am sure that you are looking for the sexual health benefits. As mentioned before these muscles rhythmically contact during orgasm. Women who vagercise often report being able to have a more intense orgasm or able to have g-spot orgasms or women who previously could not orgasm can now orgasm. You can even try contracting your PFMs when you are being penetrated it may feel good to tighten your vaginal muscles around a penis or a toy or a finger(s). Now I know that it sounds like the miracle exercise just keep in mind that this may be great for some women and others it may not really have a sexual benefit but the other health benefits are worth it too.

Does my vagina need a gym membership?
No, the best part of these exercises is that you can do them anywhere. Try them when you are driving, stuck in traffic, riding the metro or subway. No one will know. In fact I am doing them right now as I type.... and 8... and 9 ..... and 10! woah what a workout!

Stay tuned for the next post on Ben Wa Balls....

Thursday, February 18, 2010

My vajayjay looks like a disco ball!

What is Vajazzling?

Funny you should ask.. vajazzling is the art of decorating your vulva with jewels....and no, I'm not kidding. Esentially bedazzling your hooha. When looking into this a little more I thought that you could just add jewels and sparkles to your public hair but it is actually adhering jewels directly to your freshly shaven skin. I have heard of dying your pubes a different color but this takes it to a whole new level.

There is nothing wrong with this unless you could get an infection from the adhesive that you are using or a renegade jewel gets lodged somewhere. If if makes you feel good about your lady parts I am all about it. The more people become comfortable looking at, touching or in this case decorating their "down theres" the better. My question is when is penisjazzling going to become all the rage?

So.... have fun and shine on vaginas!

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

He's going the distance, he's going for speed...

What is the average length of sexual intercourse really? What are most women happy with?

Well it depends on who you are and who your partner is and what you both like. I am sure that answer is not what you are looking for so luckily The Journal of Sexual Medicine has done much research on the topic if you are looking for the hard numbers. The study (2005) states that the median time for sexual intercourse is around 7 minutes. Another study done by a cohort of sex therapist says that "good sex" lasts anywhere from 3-13 minutes. These numbers do not however include foreplay. So if you have 7 minutes of foreplay and add in the 7 minutes of actual penetration then your numbers just doubled!

What do women want?
Jeez if I knew the answer to this question I would be a millionaire but what I do know is that women like anyone else want to be pleasured. Don't get me wrong a quickie every once in awhile can be quite hot but just seeing how long you are lasting is not going to be good for anyone. Unless they are part of a sexual research study, I have not heard of people starting a stop watch at the beginning of sex to see how long things last. If you are still concerned there are some positions to try out that may help you last longer.

What's your position on positions?
Missionary position: This is a tried and true position for lasting longer as long as you keep it simple. As soon as she starts lifting hips or wrapping legs then it changes the feeling and may send you into over-drive. This is also good because you will be able to control the depth and speed of penetration.
Woman on top: This can either go one of two ways. It can either let you think about controlling your orgasms or it can make you blow it sooner than anticipated. Watching your woman bouncing up and down may not be the best way to hold out but if she can take it slow it may be beneficial.
Sexy spoon: This is also a great position to control the depth and speed of penetration.

The take away message here is to not worry. Unless you are having premature ejaculation which is anywhere from 30 seconds - 2 minutes you are probably getting it on the same amount of time as the average American. Most importantly focus on foreplay and try some new positions. As always have fun and enjoy!

Thursday, February 4, 2010

The Porn Star Zone

So you talked about drinking having the effect on men of not getting it up. What about after drinking a guy can get it up, but cannot finish, or it takes a long, long, long, time to finish? I like to call that the Porn Star zone.

It might be hard (pun intended) for people to understand why this is a problem. Well some partners may not enjoy a 2 hour session and it can also be frustrating to the person who is unable to finish if that is the intended goal. Just a reminder that sex can be enjoyable even if you don't finish, focus on the pleasure not the end point.

Why me?
Delayed ejaculation also known as retarded ejaculation can be a side effect of several drugs including alcohol. Since delayed ejaculation and erection problems are very common among excessive drinkers, the solution to this is pretty simple... limit drinking.

Sex 101
Ejaculation is an involuntary response (reflex) to sexual stimulation. In most cases the penis becomes hard due to stimulation (erection). This involuntary response involves the nervous system (brain and nerves) and the vascular system (blood vessels, etc...) Alcohol can slow and disable your senses and in turn delay or make ejaculation impossible. Sex relies heavily on your senses and alcohol desensitizes the body... it's a no win situation.

So what is the take away message.... If you want to avoid frustrations in bed and you aren't looking to become an alcoholic porn star I'd limit the alcohol and enjoy!

Monday, January 25, 2010

My penis has fallen and it can't get up

Whenever I drink a lot I have trouble "getting it up" or it wont get up at all. Is this normal or should I go get this checked out?

There is a fine line that you have to walk when drinking and having sexy time. A few drinks has been proven to loosen you up and allow you to relax. There was even a study done in Australia that showed that a few drinks actually will relax you and decrease anxiety as well as the possibility of not being able to get it up.

Why can't I get it up?
Erectile dysfunction is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection enough to be able to perform sexual activity. It is sometimes also called impotence.

Why does alcohol effect it
Think back to high school health class.... what does alcohol do? It is a depressant and it dilates blood vessels. Once you start boozing your system dilates blood vessels even those in the penis. If you are able to get it up when you are drunk you may not be able to keep it up for long. The blood vessels that are dilated to increase blood flow and give you an erection will stay dilated because of the booze and the blood will drain right back out and live you with a fallen soldier. Once this happens sex is probably not going to happen.

Should I go to the doc?
If it is happening only when you drink then I would say cut back on your drinking. Or if you want to drink don't expect to get it up. If this is occurring when you aren't drinking then I would consider how often it happens. If it is just a single incident the best thing to do is to shake it off. Most men will experience impotence at least a few time in their lives. If is starts happening regularly I would recommend talking to your doctor about it. No matter what your age is there are many successful treatment options if you are worried about getting it up.

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Latex Allergy... and you thought seasonal allergies were bad.

Just recently after having sex with a condom it has been really uncomfortable. I blew up balloons for a party and my mouth was irritated too. How do I know if I have a latex allergy?

Estimates vary but about 1%-6% of the general population have a latex allergy. The more that you have exposure to latex the more likely you are to have an allergic reaction. People can develop allergies to latex even if they have not had a previous allergy. Think of it as your body's way to keep things exciting.

Rashes, bumps and death?
You may just have a sensitivity to latex that can leave you with a mild redness or irritation. There are 3 different levels of allergic reactions to latex. Just like salsa there is mild, medium and severe (hot) reactions.
Mild: Itchiness, redness, dryness, burning, scaling.
Medium: Same as above but will be more intense and last longer and could spread to other parts of the body.
Severe(Hot): Same as above and can have hives, difficulty breathing and possible anaphylactic shock which could lead to death.
Depending on what your type of reaction is you may need to see a doctor or go to the emergency room.

What do I do if I have a reaction?
First and foremost you need to figure out if the irritation is from condoms or from your lubrication or from bath washes, etc... You can figure out what is causing the irritation by stopping using various products and seeing if it clears up. If you are certain it is the latex/condoms that are causing the reaction stop use and if it is severe see a doctor you may need medication.

Is there an alternative?
Don't loose hope this doesn't mean that you can't use condoms anymore. There are several alternatives that you can use. Polyurethane, Lambskin and Polyisoprene can all be used if you have a latex allergy. They are a bit more expensive but that is better than itchy red genitals. So which is best for you? Depends on what your need is. Are you looking for just pregnancy protection... any of the above would work. Remember lambskin does not protect against STI's. Try a few of them out give them a whirl and see which ones are best for you and your partner(s).


Thursday, January 14, 2010

Get your kicks with safe licks

I just started a relationship with a woman and I am new to this. I have never gone beyond kissing women and I want to do more what would you recommend for safer sex?

Just because there is no penis present doesn't mean that you are free of STI's. Women bi-sexual or lesbian still need to practice safer sex. Remember if you are in a long term monogamous relationship and you have been tested for STI's and have talked about it, safer sex for you may just be being monogamous. But if you are not exclusive there are some things to keep in mind.

Sex Toys
Make sure that you clean sex toys before use or before sharing. Use a mild soap and water or "sex toy cleanser." Do not use alcohol based cleaning products it with ruin the sex toys. You can also use condoms on dildos or vibrators and always change condoms when going from person to person.

Oral Sex
If you are worried about oral sex and STI's you should use dental dams. A dental dam is a piece of latex or non latex that you place over the vulva before performing oral. There are several brands but hot licks, glyde, hot dam. Unfortunately, dental dams can be hard to find, and they also cost some loot. However, if you have condoms (which are cheap) break out your scissors it's arts and crafts time you can make them.
1. Unroll a condom
2. Cut the tip off make a "tube"
3. Cut down the tube and roll out to a perfect rectangle
4. Tadah! Dental dam
I would recommend using not lubricated condoms just because that would taste nasty. Try using non-lubricated and/or flavored condoms. Yummm strawberry :) You can also use non-microwavable saran wrap. Make sure that it is non-microwavable because it does not have micro holes in it that STI's can pass through.

There are several STI's that can be transmitted through lesbian sex. HPV and Genital Herpes are the two that are most documented. They are transmitted through skin to skin contact and/or sharing sex toys. Hepatitis, HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and PID are all possible but not well documented. It's better to be safe then sorry so wrap it up, clean it off, cover it up and have fun!

Monday, January 11, 2010

Get a load of what's in a load

I heard that cum is good for you if you swallow? Doesn't have protein in it?

First off no it isn't bad for you but it also shouldn't be substituted as a breakfast shake either. The average man ejaculates about a tablespoon of fluid which has 10% sperm and 90% seminal fluids.

Seminal Fluids?
Semen is made up of sperm and seminal fluids. The fluid is made up of secretions from the seminal vesicles, the prostate gland and Cowper's gland. The seminal vesicles produce a considerable bulk of the fluid, which is rich in sugars which the sperm use as an energy source to move about. The other fluids act as lubricants and to help protect the sperm make it through the environment of the vagina.

Calories & protein?
There are about 5-10 calories in a tablespoon of semen. Think of it as having a 10 calorie tic tac or a stick of gum. You aren't going to gain weight unless you are taking down gallons at a time. There is give or take 6mg of protein in cum. To put that in perspective a chicken breast is around 30 g of protein. There are .001 g in a mg.

*Here's a little fun fact. The average person needs 55 grams of protein per day. A tablespoon of semen is about 6mg of protein. So through several math equations later .. To get your daily allowance of protein a day through just semen you would have to swallow about 35.8 gallons per day and no one would ever recommend that for anyone.

*the information of the amount of protein in semen varies I chose 6 mg as a number to just illustrate a point.

Friday, January 8, 2010

Hosed down when going down

Is female ejaculation a real thing?

Ahhh yes the infamous female ejaculation. Some belive it to be an urban legend only achieved by the most skilled of lovers.It is not just something that you can find on redtube with women "squirting" up to 6 feet. I am here to dispell the myth it is true, it can happen and it is NOT i repeat NOT urine.

Well what is it?
Sometimes called "squirting" or "gushing" female ejaculate is very similar to fluids produced by the male prostate that are in male ejaculate (minus the sperm obviously). It is a clear odorless liquid.

How can I do that?
G spot stimulation usually will allow this myth to become a reality. Women may feel like they have an urge to urinate but trust it and go with the sensation. The majority of the fluid comes from the Skene's glands which surrond the urethra so you can understand the connection now?

A little squirt won't hurt
The amount of ejaculate can is different for each woman. Not all partners will require full rain gear and galloshes. Some women may open the flood gates and others may just give a lilttle squirt. Remember that not all women will enjoy G spot stimulation and not all women have the ability to ejacualte. Remember each vulva/G spot/vagina is unique and different and reacts differently to stimulation.

Let 'er rip
Some women may feel embarrased that they ejacualte or may not know what it is. The most important part is being comfortable with yourself and your partner(s). Don't be embarrased and dont try to change the things that come natural embrace them and be confident...have fun.

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

The G Spot... a fruitless effort?

I read recently that there is no proof that there is a G spot and I don't know if I have ever found one. Is there really a G spot or is it all a myth?

Much like Nessy, Atlantis and Big Foot many have devoted their entire lives to finding the elusive G spot. Is this a fruitless effort? Is it a suicide mission with no chance of a happy ending? No sir! It is there and it is glorious.

Where is it?
The G spot is a small area of spongy tissue, (about 1 inch diameter) about 1-2 inches inside on the front wall of the vagina (the front wall is on the same side as your belly button). It is not a single tiny spot it is about the area of a quarter. Okay explorers lets go exploring... If you are lying on your back you or your partner can insert a finger as far as it will go. Slightly bend your finger up towards the ceiling and slide down the vaginal wall. When you find the area it can feel surprising or like you need to pee. (Follow up tomorrow when I discuss female ejaculation)

Do i have one?
Women are different and all women experience pleasure in different ways. Some women report the ability to have a G spot orgasm with one partner but not another. Some never may experience a G spot orgasm. Some women love G spot stimulation and others may not feel anything and some may totally dislike it and even feel discomfort from G-spot stimulation. Don't worry if you don't find it or they don't like it, women will appreciate your effort to discover the lost city know as the G spot. Explore and have fun.