My boyfriend is a bit small in the package area. I guess I am used to having guys with a bit more substance which has always been quite pleasurable. Because I am used to that, having sex does not make me orgasm. Is there any suggesions or positions that might help us out so I can stop faking it??
Answer:
First of all I must start out with a cliche... "it's not the size of the boat it's the motion in the ocean". If you are used to sex with larger packaged men then you are probably used to coital orgasms or orgasms with just penetration. Well let me offer you a little secret women can have all kinds of orgasms. Saying that there is only one kind of orgasm is like saying the world is flat!
Not all orgasms are created equal. Not all orgasms are the porno earth shattering screaming ones. Some people have very shallow or weak orgasms and some women have no orgasms at all. Some women can even fantasize themselves to orgasm with no one else involved. but I digress....
If your man is smaller then you are used to there are a few suggestions that I can offer to liven up the sack session. If you aren't orgasming from penetration alone try clitoral stimulation with penetration either by you, your man, or a vibrator. The best positions for this are doggy style, side by side, and woman on top for easy access.
The best positions for deep thrusting and G-spot stimulation are rear entry sexual positions that allow the penis to stimulate the G-Spot. Such as, doggy style, spooning/side by side, spread eagle, missionary and furniture:
Spooning or side by side: This will give your man easy access to the breasts and clitoris for added stimulation.
Spread Eagle: is a position that has the woman lying face down with her legs spread if you add a pillow under your hips to raise you up a bit off the bed.
Missionary: The good ol' missionary position can also be used for deep penetration just raise your legs and rest your calves on your man's shoulders. The more you raise your legs the deeper he will be able to penetrate you.
Furniture: Still feeling frisky why not bring some props into the mix. Grab a piece of sturdy furniture or counter top and sit or lay near the edge. Feeling adventurous sit on the washer or dryer and turn it on for some good vibrations (the furniture needs to be waist high for the man whether he is kneeling or standing... that way the penis can actually reach you). He or you can hold your legs apart allowing for deep penetration. As an added bonus this is a good location to be for oral sex for you.
Just keep in mind that not all women will enjoy deep penetration, but those that do WATCH OUT! Deep penetration does require adequate lubrication so foreplay is a must... remember that the furniture puts you in a good spot ;) Mix it up, if you go into a situation thinking that you aren't going to orgasm you probably won't. Remember the wise words of hockey star Wayne Gretzky "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take." So how does that apply... I guess shoot for the back of the net (vagina) and play with the puck (clitoris) a bit.
No comments:
Post a Comment