Monday, January 25, 2010

My penis has fallen and it can't get up

Whenever I drink a lot I have trouble "getting it up" or it wont get up at all. Is this normal or should I go get this checked out?

There is a fine line that you have to walk when drinking and having sexy time. A few drinks has been proven to loosen you up and allow you to relax. There was even a study done in Australia that showed that a few drinks actually will relax you and decrease anxiety as well as the possibility of not being able to get it up.

Why can't I get it up?
Erectile dysfunction is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection enough to be able to perform sexual activity. It is sometimes also called impotence.

Why does alcohol effect it
Think back to high school health class.... what does alcohol do? It is a depressant and it dilates blood vessels. Once you start boozing your system dilates blood vessels even those in the penis. If you are able to get it up when you are drunk you may not be able to keep it up for long. The blood vessels that are dilated to increase blood flow and give you an erection will stay dilated because of the booze and the blood will drain right back out and live you with a fallen soldier. Once this happens sex is probably not going to happen.

Should I go to the doc?
If it is happening only when you drink then I would say cut back on your drinking. Or if you want to drink don't expect to get it up. If this is occurring when you aren't drinking then I would consider how often it happens. If it is just a single incident the best thing to do is to shake it off. Most men will experience impotence at least a few time in their lives. If is starts happening regularly I would recommend talking to your doctor about it. No matter what your age is there are many successful treatment options if you are worried about getting it up.

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Latex Allergy... and you thought seasonal allergies were bad.

Just recently after having sex with a condom it has been really uncomfortable. I blew up balloons for a party and my mouth was irritated too. How do I know if I have a latex allergy?

Estimates vary but about 1%-6% of the general population have a latex allergy. The more that you have exposure to latex the more likely you are to have an allergic reaction. People can develop allergies to latex even if they have not had a previous allergy. Think of it as your body's way to keep things exciting.

Rashes, bumps and death?
You may just have a sensitivity to latex that can leave you with a mild redness or irritation. There are 3 different levels of allergic reactions to latex. Just like salsa there is mild, medium and severe (hot) reactions.
Mild: Itchiness, redness, dryness, burning, scaling.
Medium: Same as above but will be more intense and last longer and could spread to other parts of the body.
Severe(Hot): Same as above and can have hives, difficulty breathing and possible anaphylactic shock which could lead to death.
Depending on what your type of reaction is you may need to see a doctor or go to the emergency room.

What do I do if I have a reaction?
First and foremost you need to figure out if the irritation is from condoms or from your lubrication or from bath washes, etc... You can figure out what is causing the irritation by stopping using various products and seeing if it clears up. If you are certain it is the latex/condoms that are causing the reaction stop use and if it is severe see a doctor you may need medication.

Is there an alternative?
Don't loose hope this doesn't mean that you can't use condoms anymore. There are several alternatives that you can use. Polyurethane, Lambskin and Polyisoprene can all be used if you have a latex allergy. They are a bit more expensive but that is better than itchy red genitals. So which is best for you? Depends on what your need is. Are you looking for just pregnancy protection... any of the above would work. Remember lambskin does not protect against STI's. Try a few of them out give them a whirl and see which ones are best for you and your partner(s).


Thursday, January 14, 2010

Get your kicks with safe licks

I just started a relationship with a woman and I am new to this. I have never gone beyond kissing women and I want to do more what would you recommend for safer sex?

Just because there is no penis present doesn't mean that you are free of STI's. Women bi-sexual or lesbian still need to practice safer sex. Remember if you are in a long term monogamous relationship and you have been tested for STI's and have talked about it, safer sex for you may just be being monogamous. But if you are not exclusive there are some things to keep in mind.

Sex Toys
Make sure that you clean sex toys before use or before sharing. Use a mild soap and water or "sex toy cleanser." Do not use alcohol based cleaning products it with ruin the sex toys. You can also use condoms on dildos or vibrators and always change condoms when going from person to person.

Oral Sex
If you are worried about oral sex and STI's you should use dental dams. A dental dam is a piece of latex or non latex that you place over the vulva before performing oral. There are several brands but hot licks, glyde, hot dam. Unfortunately, dental dams can be hard to find, and they also cost some loot. However, if you have condoms (which are cheap) break out your scissors it's arts and crafts time you can make them.
1. Unroll a condom
2. Cut the tip off make a "tube"
3. Cut down the tube and roll out to a perfect rectangle
4. Tadah! Dental dam
I would recommend using not lubricated condoms just because that would taste nasty. Try using non-lubricated and/or flavored condoms. Yummm strawberry :) You can also use non-microwavable saran wrap. Make sure that it is non-microwavable because it does not have micro holes in it that STI's can pass through.

There are several STI's that can be transmitted through lesbian sex. HPV and Genital Herpes are the two that are most documented. They are transmitted through skin to skin contact and/or sharing sex toys. Hepatitis, HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and PID are all possible but not well documented. It's better to be safe then sorry so wrap it up, clean it off, cover it up and have fun!

Monday, January 11, 2010

Get a load of what's in a load

I heard that cum is good for you if you swallow? Doesn't have protein in it?

First off no it isn't bad for you but it also shouldn't be substituted as a breakfast shake either. The average man ejaculates about a tablespoon of fluid which has 10% sperm and 90% seminal fluids.

Seminal Fluids?
Semen is made up of sperm and seminal fluids. The fluid is made up of secretions from the seminal vesicles, the prostate gland and Cowper's gland. The seminal vesicles produce a considerable bulk of the fluid, which is rich in sugars which the sperm use as an energy source to move about. The other fluids act as lubricants and to help protect the sperm make it through the environment of the vagina.

Calories & protein?
There are about 5-10 calories in a tablespoon of semen. Think of it as having a 10 calorie tic tac or a stick of gum. You aren't going to gain weight unless you are taking down gallons at a time. There is give or take 6mg of protein in cum. To put that in perspective a chicken breast is around 30 g of protein. There are .001 g in a mg.

*Here's a little fun fact. The average person needs 55 grams of protein per day. A tablespoon of semen is about 6mg of protein. So through several math equations later .. To get your daily allowance of protein a day through just semen you would have to swallow about 35.8 gallons per day and no one would ever recommend that for anyone.

*the information of the amount of protein in semen varies I chose 6 mg as a number to just illustrate a point.

Friday, January 8, 2010

Hosed down when going down

Is female ejaculation a real thing?

Ahhh yes the infamous female ejaculation. Some belive it to be an urban legend only achieved by the most skilled of lovers.It is not just something that you can find on redtube with women "squirting" up to 6 feet. I am here to dispell the myth it is true, it can happen and it is NOT i repeat NOT urine.

Well what is it?
Sometimes called "squirting" or "gushing" female ejaculate is very similar to fluids produced by the male prostate that are in male ejaculate (minus the sperm obviously). It is a clear odorless liquid.

How can I do that?
G spot stimulation usually will allow this myth to become a reality. Women may feel like they have an urge to urinate but trust it and go with the sensation. The majority of the fluid comes from the Skene's glands which surrond the urethra so you can understand the connection now?

A little squirt won't hurt
The amount of ejaculate can is different for each woman. Not all partners will require full rain gear and galloshes. Some women may open the flood gates and others may just give a lilttle squirt. Remember that not all women will enjoy G spot stimulation and not all women have the ability to ejacualte. Remember each vulva/G spot/vagina is unique and different and reacts differently to stimulation.

Let 'er rip
Some women may feel embarrased that they ejacualte or may not know what it is. The most important part is being comfortable with yourself and your partner(s). Don't be embarrased and dont try to change the things that come natural embrace them and be confident...have fun.

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

The G Spot... a fruitless effort?

I read recently that there is no proof that there is a G spot and I don't know if I have ever found one. Is there really a G spot or is it all a myth?

Much like Nessy, Atlantis and Big Foot many have devoted their entire lives to finding the elusive G spot. Is this a fruitless effort? Is it a suicide mission with no chance of a happy ending? No sir! It is there and it is glorious.

Where is it?
The G spot is a small area of spongy tissue, (about 1 inch diameter) about 1-2 inches inside on the front wall of the vagina (the front wall is on the same side as your belly button). It is not a single tiny spot it is about the area of a quarter. Okay explorers lets go exploring... If you are lying on your back you or your partner can insert a finger as far as it will go. Slightly bend your finger up towards the ceiling and slide down the vaginal wall. When you find the area it can feel surprising or like you need to pee. (Follow up tomorrow when I discuss female ejaculation)

Do i have one?
Women are different and all women experience pleasure in different ways. Some women report the ability to have a G spot orgasm with one partner but not another. Some never may experience a G spot orgasm. Some women love G spot stimulation and others may not feel anything and some may totally dislike it and even feel discomfort from G-spot stimulation. Don't worry if you don't find it or they don't like it, women will appreciate your effort to discover the lost city know as the G spot. Explore and have fun.