So I have been dating this guy for a decent amount of time and we've typically had a good sexual relationship, but it seems like within the last month things sexually have gone downhill. We don't have sex as often as my sex drive would like to, and I feel like when we do, it's the same thing, just a different day. Don't get me wrong, it's good when we have sex, but I am wondering some good tips on how to spice things up a bit and make it even better?!
Answer:
As discussed in a previous blog, My Sex Drive Is Like Woah I discussed the importance of communication. This is the same deal here...the most important thing in any relationship is an open line of communication. How is anyone supposed to know what you want if you never discuss it? Now do I mean straight up asking.. well yeah in some cases. In other cases you can show your partner what you want.
Some examples:
-You are your partner are getting it on and you wish that they would play with your boobs. Take their hands and place them on your boobs. Remember you can put their hands wherever you want them to go.
-You want some more foreplay action but they aren't getting the hint. Offer up a 69 option so that you both can keep going.
-If they aren't getting how you like things show them yourself. Show them how you play with yourself... what you do to make you feel good. It feels good for you and it gives them subtle pointers.
Role play: You can always spice it up with a little role play too. You don't need to build your own dungeon in the basement you can just add little things. Try wearing a cowboy hat while on top or go all out and wear a full costume, whatever your comfort level is. This also opens up a conversation about what your fantasies are. It could be an interesting conversation. And remember if you don't want to know...don't ask. Can you handle if they have a circus fantasy?
Gadgets and Gizmos Galore: Try using a vibrator or any other number of sex toys there are. Remember baby steps don't just whip out a giant dildo without asking. Show your partner how you use your toys when they are not around and incorporate it that way.
Private Dancer: We respond to sex through visuals ask your partner to do a strip tease for you and you can reciprocate. Show off your sexiest moves.
Who's In Control: Does your partner always initiate or vise versa? Why not try switching roles. Have the other person take the reigns for the night. They might really enjoy being in control or giving up the control they usually have.
Remember sex is supposed to be fun. Mix it up a bit and enjoy!
Thanks for the advice
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