Saturday, January 29, 2011

Tools of the Trade

Question:
I have been with my partner for a long time and sex is starting to feel a bit boring....please help!

Answer:
A lot of times when you and a partner have been together for while you can get in a rut. This doesn't mean that you have used up all your sexual good times it just means that you need to spice it up a bit. Here are a few suggestions to get out of your sexual rut. You can always try some new positions but here are some items that you can purchase....

Toys and Vibrators:
Sometimes people view their vibrators as substitutes when their partners are gone but that is not the case. Feel free to introduce your alone time friend with your partner. Try having your partner use the toy on you or try using a vibrator when you are in the act. All the fun time isn't for the ladies either...try using a vibrating cock ring or try using the vibrator during oral sex or you man.... mix it up and see what each person enjoys.

Lube it up
Your body as part of the sexual response cycle creates it's own lubricants. During arousal the vaginal walls secrete fluids to lubricate the vagina decrease friction during penetration. Some women create enough lubricant and some women don't. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. Some people just like lube to enhance pleasure with better slipping and sliding.

There are three different kinds of lubricats water-based, silicone-based and oil-baed. If you use condoms ALWAYS use a water based lubricant. Each of these has their advantages and disadvantages,however water-based lubes are by far the most popular. Some popular ones in the market are: KY jelly, Astroglide, Maximus and Wet. You can get most of the popular lubricants like KY at your drugstore or grocery store.

Lotions and Potions
Arousal gels and "his and hers" lotions are the latest thing. You can't watch TV without seeing a commercial for KY His & Hers. You may think that it is a scam but these potions actually work. There are warming and cooling gels as well as condoms.

Getting the Goods
Most of these items can be purchased in the condom aisle of your pharmacy or grocery store but there will be a wider selection at an adult store. If you are a bit shy and don't want to go to an adult store or try and sneak in some lube with a loaf of bread at the grocery store you can always order items on line. Some popular sites are
Adam and Eve
Passion Parties
Sex Toy


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